Mon, 2 October 2017
One thing I’ve noticed after coaching for years is that the way you do one thing in your life is usually a sign of how you do everything.
Let me explain: if you put perfectionistic pressure on yourself to pick out your one right career path, you might also put that pressure on yourself to find your perfect, flawless (unicorn) romantic partner, to be the perfect friend, or improve your fitness by being perfect when you work out. (Maybe something super technical and detail-oriented like ballet or Olympic weightlifting...if you can get over your fears of not being perfect so that you can even start!)
Or if you’re afraid of losing out on options in your life, you might be too scared to commit to one career path or job, so you stay stuck in one you don’t like, because unhappiness feels safer than uncertainty of taking away future possibilities. You might be the one who goes out on dates with a ton of people but never wants to initiate the DTR (define-the-relationship) conversation and end up tied down. Or you might be the person who wants to eat at every new restaurant as soon as it opens, so you’ll know all the different culinary options that your city provides.
The way you do things isn’t necessarily a bad thing -- in fact, it can be a secret hint about your strengths hiding in your personality and habits.
You can see this secret strength concept beautifully illustrated in today’s podcast with Angela Wagner. The way Angela does work the the way Angela does life is an example of who she is. She started out her career in the high-powered advertising world, but was seeking to feel grounded outside of work, so she started working at a gym on the side.
Her decision to lean into opportunities that helped her stay active while relieving stress led her to creating community through becoming a yoga teacher...which led her to creating her own yoga studio...which led her to her getting training in yoga life coaching
Creating community for individuals ready to put down their baggage and seek soulful stress relief is Angela’s through-line. It’s how (and WHY) she does everything.
Mon, 25 September 2017
Have you ever heard of Soccer Tots?
In 2011 I hadn’t either.
It’s where you take little kids and they jump through hula hoops, run around cones, occasionally kick a soccer ball and sort of attempt to listen to their frazzled looking teacher. (Think; Pre Soccer)
I was supposed to leave midday on a flight for work and it didn’t make sense for me to go to the office so Alyssa suggested that I come watch Soccer tots.
I showed up at 10am in the middle of the day, not at all knowing what to expect.
One of my kids kicked a goal in the cones that were set up over 20 feet wide which made it nearly impossible for them to miss
He turned and saw that I was there in the room and started shrieking with excitement!
“Daddy did you see me get a goal” (He looked so happy!)
It was right then that I realized I HAD to figure out a way to be able to have the flexibility in my work to be able to be around.
NOT just for the big things in life (school musicals, family birthdays and weddings), but also the little things too!
I hadn’t realized what I was missing out on.
After that I became fascinated by the possibility of working remotely.
That was years ago and since then I’ve negotiated flexible and remote work for myself and helped many other people get jobs or change careers that allow them to work remotely!
We’ve had a lot of people come to us in the last few years that are also interested in doing the exact same thing.
For this reason we brought on Adda Birnir, the CEO of SkillCrush.com, to discuss remote work on the podcast. Not only does her company work entirely remotely but also they teach people (especially women) to code (which is one profession that is incredibly flexible)
If you want to learn how to make remote work possible for you check out this blog post and the podcast here!
On the podcast today, we talked about…
(We covered a lot of ground.)
Plus in this blog post we go through step by step the process we use to help clients get to remote and flexible work in their current jobs OR new careers!
Mon, 18 September 2017
So, true story: almost everyone on my team here at Happen to Your Career is an introvert.
Which is kind of surprising for a company that teaches people all about how to use relationship-building and presentation skills to create new opportunities in your professional life, right?
Well, contrary to popular belief, we introverts aren’t completely socially anxious and hiding ourselves away in a closet somewhere. (Most of the time.)
We (and I’m sure you, or people you know) have learned the skills to gracefully survive in a socially-oriented world while still creating space for our “me” time.
But one of the things that can feel the hardest for introverts is also one of the ones that makes conversations the most fulfilling.
The vulnerability of putting yourself out there (whether you’re an introvert or extravert) is part of what creates deep, meaningful, awesome connection.
And connection is why we’re all here, isn’t it?
If you agree, you’re going to love this week’s podcast on vulnerability and how to connect with anyone with AJ Harbinger of The Art of Charm.
I think this episode has the most value per minute of any podcast I’ve ever recorded, so if you are a person who loves self-development and wants to be a better conversationalist, you’ve gotta take a listen.
I consider myself to be pretty good at striking up conversations, and I found myself taking tons of mental notes.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Mon, 11 September 2017
Ever thought about becoming a coach? If so, press play immediately on this episode where Scott Barlow welcomes back Marc Mawhinney, the founder of Natural Born Coaches program and podcast, where he helps coaches create real, profitable (and real profitable!) businesses.
On this episode, you’ll learn how Marc got into coaching (and the books that have been his biggest inspiration), how building a business is a bit like being a modern-day caveman, how to ensure you’re not getting paid in meatballs, and how to know when (or if) you need a coaching certification.
Being in love with the dream of calling yourself a coach can be very different from truly having a passion for the day-to-day life of being one.
For example, how much do you enjoy sales conversations? Working for yourself is an eat-what-you-kill kind of job, so you’re going to spend time bringing in coaching clients so you can keep the lights on and pay the bills.
And, how much time out of your week would you estimate you’ll be on the phone with coaching clients? Whatever you’re guessing, guess again and listen to Marc to hear about what it was like for him (and for Scott) in building their coaching businesses.
Mon, 28 August 2017
Writing like a Pro in the business world seems like a huge undertaking that is easier said than done.
Luckily, we have Danny H. Rubin as our guest today.
Danny Rubin is “THE writing guy.” Danny has studied communications since college and has worked as a TV News Reporter and Consultant and has come back around to what he loves most, which is writing. He uses his greatest strength to teach practical writing instruction for the business world. From writing to apply for jobs to writing to start a business from scratch, Danny offers his writing advice as the writing expert in the business world.
One of the key takeaways from the episode is viewing the job search as an expectations game where employers are going to expect you to do X, but you’re going to learn how to do Y.
Why, you ask? Well, while everyone else is doing X, you’re going to put that little bit of extra effort it takes to do Y. This is your opportunity to do something another way to stand out from the crowd of job-seekers.
All Y is, is a change in the way that you think about what you’re writing. We have all been so conditioned to write a resume and cover letter the same way. So, a hiring manager is going to expect that same template from every candidate.
But, Danny is here to walk you through a process that will show you how to go about writing those pieces in a smarter, more strategic way.
You will see more results when you know how to be interesting when describing yourself in your stories. Your writing should highlight details of your experience that will enhance your overall platform.
Listen to the podcast to learn more about the power of telling YOUR story of success in your cover letter. Danny will help you learn how to write to command attention, prove your ability, and leave a lasting impression on the reader.
What You Will Learn
Mon, 21 August 2017
What do you do when you decide your current job no longer fits your values?
You fill your iPhone with numbers from all of the CEOs you’ve just made friends with by interviewing them for your blog.
That’s just one of the many ways that our client and HTYC Podcast listener Eric Murphy used to make a career change to his dream job. (take a listen below!)
Eric Murphy was working 10-14 hour days in his engineering role for the gas company in Las Vegas Nevada. It was going well… except that every single day he was feeling the urge to work with an organization that was giving back to the world. He even thought the solar industry might be how he should be spending his time.
He had no idea that he was so far off.
How do you make a career change when you’re burnt out, have no time, and don’t know what fits you?
That’s exactly what Eric wanted to know too!
Because he wasn’t just trying to make a career change, he was also trying to figure out what career and what company really fit him.
For every client we work with we help them go through the same process, and Eric was no exception!
1. Determine your Signature Strengths
2. Create Your Ideal Career Profile (What’s most important to you)
3. Target only companies and opportunities that fit
What was incredibly unique to Eric’s story?
That he was both seeking jobs AND trying to discover what his ideal role was at the same time.
This might not sound like a big deal, but if you’re reading this, I bet you feel like you have to already know exactly what you want to be doing before you go talk to peopl about it!
This was the strategy that we helped Eric use.
Mon, 7 August 2017
It's safe to say that the decisions we make in life are usually made with our head or our heart.
But, a lot of the time with specific big life decisions, our heads will use all the logic it can to persuade us to stay in the safe zone when it comes to finalizing those big decisions.
Many people find themselves torn when it comes to their career change.
They know and feel deep down inside that something isn't right and they struggle with taking a chance to actually make a change in their career.
Why do we fight what we know to be true in our core?
We see how others reach their goals and we think we must follow in their footsteps to reach the same success.
But, the truth is: we don't.
Success is defined by our own definitions and the way we reach our career milestones and life goals is up to us.
One way to breakthrough the traditional path of success that we've built up in our heads to be the only path of success is to listen to that little voice in the back of our head telling us where we need to be to successfully reach our own career goals (whatever they may look like).
Listen to the podcast to learn how we can learn to listen to our gut intuition and trust ourselves enough to reach our career success.
Mon, 10 July 2017
So many questions that plague people that have decided to take the bull by the horns and make a career change for themselves.
The ups and downs that they encounter before they make the official jump to a new job position, organization, industry, or business venture are sometimes glossed over once they find success.
But, people that find that success as they transition to a new stage in their career know all too well the hard work, the endless days and nights they were kept awake at night, and the energy it took to put in the work to get where they are today.
One of those people is Cesar Ponce de Leon.
We had the pleasure of working with him as he took on the challenge to move from his previous job in legal affairs to a role at an organization that spoke more to his heart and true life calling.
Cesar ran into a few stumbling blocks along the way, but with the right tools and resources he was able to find success in his career transition.
His story of hard work and non-stop effort is one to take note of, so we've put together an outline of his biggest challenges and the process that he followed to guide him through to reach his career goals.
Check it out!
Mon, 26 June 2017
Have you noticed any reoccurring themes in your life?
These themes can range from the habits you form, the hobbies you enjoy, the work you choose, the tasks you hate, the type of people you surround yourself with, and so on.
Just stop and think for a moment.
Does anything stand out?
The patterns and themes that appear in your life are little nuggets of gold that you shouldn’t hastily push aside when you’re looking to make any big life changes, like a career transition.
As much as we emphasize how digging deeper into your own patterns in your career and life is the first piece of research you need to do before you start down the career change road, we know that sometimes it is hard to accept those patterns for what they truly are.
Just ask our guest, Matthew Toy, who avoided accepting what everyone else around him knew about how big of an impact his own passion for practicing yoga had on his life.
Fast forward to now, and you’ll find Matt teaching and practicing Man Yoga (yoga for men) at the Berkeley Yoga Center, re-educating people on what the practice of yoga really is through his Instagram, as well as at events. He is also the co-founder of a bakery.
With a full life, yoga practice, and career, Matt is now able to look back, reflect, and share his path on how accepting his own life patterns led him to where he is now.
Mon, 29 May 2017
Feeling safe and at ease is great and all, but what goals have you ever achieved by staying in your comfort zone??
We’re willing to bet on not many at all.
Nobody ever achieves much by staying in their comfort zone.
Well, achieving goals requires you to aim for something just a little bit out of your reach.
Having a goal makes you look forward to something attainable that may not be in your comfort zone (at the moment).
The question of how and when to reach out of our comfort zones comes up.
When it comes to career change, more likely than not you’ll be faced with the choice to break out of your comfort zone to progress down a new path that may be full of unknowns.
You can look at your career change in one of two ways:
But, the benefits of getting comfortable with feeling uncomfortable far outweigh staying in the little bubble of your comfort zone.
Today, Andy Molinsky - an expert on behavior in the business world and author of the new book, Reach: A New Strategy to Help You Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone, Rise to the Challenge, and Build Confidence, joins us on the podcast. He shares insight on:
Listen to my chat with Andy on how to Reach Out of Your Comfort Zone to learn the steps you can take to develop a framework to get comfortable turning whatever you are most afraid of doing and positioning yourself to achieve your goals in your career and life.